I am something of a computer nerd and I understand why many computer types find computers more tractable than people. ( The “no social skills” syndrome.) Computers behave in more or less predictable ways (though at the moment you might not understand why, but deep down there is a perfectly logical explanation for their behavior) and usually if you spend enough time you can find the cause of the unexpected behavior. Interpersonal relationships, particularly ones with a strong emotional content, often degenerate in to a state in which it seems no amount of time will enable you to develop a “fix” or a deep and correct understanding of what went wrong. People, especially some people are just too variable (perhaps the are just a too complex system with many inputs and chaotic (in the mathematical sense) behavior). I have seen several times two seemingly perfectly reasonable behaving persons who ended up in a divorce somehow transform to irrational bitter enemies doing down right hateful things to one another, I have also seen this happen with only one of the persons are primarily behaving badly, and the other person occasionally with justifiable anger which resulted in seemingly a disproportionate response from the other person. The on going saga with Brittany Spears seems to be a case in point. I am not really sure why I have been following it, probably because it has been featured prominently on google news. A good description of the latest “Spears was in a total meltdow” is a case in point, she has been behaving bizarrely, if you believe the news, and in many respects her own worst enemy. While there apparently was a lot of mutual unpleasantness, (Her head shaving episode was apparently precipitated by Kevin Federline telling her that she would lose custody based on upon her drug use which could be proved by a hair test). To me looking from the outside her behavior and logic seem inexplicable and no amount time spent will enable me (or probably anyone) else to find a “perfectly logical explanation” for her behavior and certainly not a “bug” fix.